As I was thinking about how God works, often He is the 11th hour God. I hear story after story about how He's pulled couples from the very brink of divorce. And this past summer, we were closer to the edge than ever.
Having a parent move in with us was challenging on many levels. My parent and I have never been very close. They have a personality disorder, therefore, I moved out when I was 19 and never looked back. There was a lot of emotional violence in my family between my parents and I was more than happy to move east when the opportunity presented itself.
With that said, my parent has been home with me and my husband for almost a month. I had no idea the level of care that was needed and I think I cried the entire first week. I had one part-time care giver and that wasn't enough. I re-injured my back trying to move my parent from place to place. I prayed for help and now we have three WONDERFUL Christian care givers who come at various times to care and give us relief. They speak to my parent about God and encourage to watch Joel Osteen daily. My parent is regularly reading devotionals. At first, it was tolerated. Now, my parent looks forward to the time with these ladies in the Lord.
Having a parent in my home has brought back a lot of childhood trauma and I was becoming more sleepless, short -tempered, angry and anxiety-ridden. All of the issues, of which, I had been healed (from my childhood) came flooding back. I've been sticking close to my therapist and God during this time. Jesus really has a sense of humor. When we bought the house, I had NO IDEA that my therapist lived just a few houses away. We have kept professional boundaries but still see each other on occasion (where we avoid personal issues).
My husband has been AMAZING with my parent. He's been available to both of us as we've needed him. Often, he anticipates our needs and does various tasks without being asked. He's been patient with my mood swings and deserves a medal.
Fast forward to last night, we were able to get out to have dinner by ourselves. We had the deepest conversation I think we've ever had. He had such a presence about him that I've never seen before. An inner confidence and a peace. What he shared with me was such a gift.
He explain that since we moved to this house, he's never felt God's love in his heart more strongly. He explained that it had nothing to do with the house itself but more that he was able to open his heart to love me and my mother the way we deserved to be loved. I'm sure that the people in the next booth thought he'd asked me for a divorce because I burst into tears. Truly, the ice that's been around his heart for so many years has melted. This is a miracle that only could have been accomplished through our Lord. It felt as though a ton of bricks had been lifted from me. It's made everything at I/we have gone through all worth it. I've been praying for this for years. In turn, I feel much freer to love him and my parent. I truly have the partner I've been waiting for all these years. I realize that I need to grow into the partner that he deserves. God is good!!!!